Thursday, September 29, 2011

My Personality: Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking & Judging. "Rational Portrait of The Mastermind (INTJ)"

Here's something different for a change to my usual blog:
Today, i did a Myers-Briggs style personality test, it was interesting:
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
My results as follows:

*They tend to be stable, reliable, and dedicated. Harmony in relationships and home life tends to be extremely important to them. They generally withhold strong emotion and do not like to waste time with what they consider irrational social rituals. This may cause non-INTJs to perceive them as distant and reserved; nevertheless, INTJs are usually very loyal partners who are prepared to commit substantial energy and time into a relationship to make it work.


*As mates, INTJs want harmony and order in the home and in relationships. The most independent of all types,[16] INTJs trust their intuition when choosing friends and mates—even in spite of contradictory evidence or pressure from others. The emotions of an INTJ are hard to read, and neither male nor female INTJs are apt to express emotional reactions. At times, INTJs seem cold, reserved, and unresponsive, while in fact they are almost hypersensitive to signals of rejection from those they care for. In social situations, INTJs may also be unresponsive and may neglect small rituals designed to put others at ease. For example, INTJs may communicate that idle dialogue such as small talk is a waste of time. This may create the impression that the INTJ is in a hurry—an impression that is not always intended.


*All Rationals are good at planning operations, but Masterminds are head and shoulders above all the rest in contingency planning. Complex operations involve many steps or stages, one following another in a necessary progression, and Masterminds are naturally able to grasp how each one leads to the next, and to prepare alternatives for difficulties that are likely to arise any step of the way. Trying to anticipate every contingency, Masterminds never set off on their current project without a Plan A firmly in mind, but they are always prepared to switch to Plan B or C or D if need be.

*Masterminds-INTJs are one of the rarest of the sixteen personality types, and account for about 1–4% of the population, and they are rarely encountered outside their office, factory, school, or laboratory. Although they are highly capable leaders, Masterminds are not at all eager to take command, preferring to stay in the background until others demonstrate their inability to lead. Once they take charge, however, they are thoroughgoing pragmatists. Masterminds are certain that efficiency is indispensable in a well-run organization, and if they encounter inefficiency -- any waste of human and material resources -- they are quick to realign operations and reassign personnel. Only ideas that make sense to them are adopted; those that don't, aren't, no matter who thought of them. Remember, their aim is always maximum efficiency.

*Problem-solving is highly stimulating to Masterminds, who love responding to tangled systems that require careful sorting out.
Ordinarily, they verbalize the positive and avoid comments of a negative nature; they are more interested in moving an organization forward than dwelling on mistakes of the past.

*Rational women tend to be late bloomers on the dating scene. They are sometimes unaware of or don't wish to follow cultural norms which dictate what is considered feminine. As they get older, men often appreciate their logic and general lack of emotional outbursts, along with the fact that Rational women tend to clearly state what they think and want.

*Masterminds tend to be much more definite and self-confident than other Rationals, having usually developed a very strong will. Decisions come easily to them; in fact, they can hardly rest until they have things settled and decided. But before they decide anything, they must do the research. Masterminds are highly theoretical, but they insist on looking at all available data before they embrace an idea, and they are suspicious of any statement that is based on shoddy research, or that is not checked against reality
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*To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age.

*INTJs are perfectionists. INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind.
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*Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.

INTJs as Lovers & Relationships: "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May

INTJs live much of their lives inside their own heads. They constantly scan their environment for new ideas and theories which they can turn into plans and structures. Sometimes, what they see and understand intuitively within themselves is more pure and "perfect" than the reality of a close personal relationship. INTJs may have a problem reconciling their reality with their fantasy.

They have a tendency to believe that they are always right. While their self-confidence and esteem is attractive, their lack of sensitivity to others can be a problem if it causes them to inadvertantly hurt their partner's feelings. If this is a problem for an INTJ, they should remember to sometimes let their mate be the one who is right.

Sexually, the INTJ enjoys thinking about intimacy, and about ways to perfect it. In positive relationships, their creativity and intensity shine through in this arena. They're likely to approach intimacy from a theoretical, creative perspective.

INTJs are highly intense, intelligent people who bring a lot of depth and insight into most major areas of their life. In terms of relationships, their greatest potential pitfall is the tendency to think about things rather than doing them. INTJs are likely to be in positive, healthy relationships, because they're likely to leave relationships which aren't working for them (unless other circumstances prohibit that).

Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, the INTJ's natural partner is the ENFP. Simply because we could always do with more INTJ- ENFP threads. There appears to be none more fine-tuned match than the pair in question. INTJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a partner whose personality is dominated by Extraverted Intuition.

*This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness.

*Probably the strongest INTJ assets in the interpersonal area are their intuitive abilities and their willingness to "work at" a relationship. Although as Ts they do not always have the kind of natural empathy that many do, the Intuitive function can often act as a good substitute by synthesizing the probable meanings behind such things as tone of voice, turn of phrase, and facial expression. This ability can then be honed and directed by consistent, repeated efforts to understand and support those they care about, and those relationships which ultimately do become established with an INTJ tend to be characterized by their robustness, stability, and good communications.

*Feeling & Imminent iNtuition has a modest inner room. We may catch a glimpse of it in the unspoken attitude of good will, or the gracious smile or nod. Some question the existence of Feeling in this type, yet its unseen balance to Thinking is a cardinal dimension in the full measure of the INTJ's soul.


*Famous INTJs:
Isaac Newton
Stephen Hawking
Dwight D. Eisenhower
Bill Gates
Lance Armstrong
Augustus Caesar (Gaius Julius Caesar Octavianus)
Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
Rudy Giuliani, former New York City mayor
Emily Bronte, author of Wuthering Heights

Angela Lansbury (Murder, She Wrote)
C. S. Lewis (The Chronicles of Narnia)
Michelle Obama
Hillary Clinton, US Secretary of State
Thomas Jefferson
John F. Kennedy
Woodrow Wilson
*Fictional:
Cassius (Julius Caesar)
Mr. Darcy (Pride and Prejudice)
Gandalf the Grey (J. R. R. Tolkein's Middle Earth books)
Hannibal Lecter (Silence of the Lambs)
Professor Moriarty, Sherlock Holmes' nemesis
Ensign Ro (Star Trek--the Next Generation)
Rosencrantz and Guildenstern (Hamlet)
Clarice Starling (Silence of the Lambs)

If you actually read all of this... you are amazing :)
And you also now know the inner workings of my psyche!
Now THATS a scary thought.
xox

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

I'm Sorry.

Such little words, such a big impact on life.
They can make you or break you to pieces.
When someone says:
ie: I'm sorry i hurt you/ I'm sorry i called you that/ I'm sorry i was inconsiderate of you..
OR
I'm sorry, we're just not meant to be together/  I'm sorry, it's not you, it's me..
See, it can make or break you!
But what if you are the one apologising.
Even on a good day it can be hard to do.
I'm not talking about the 'Sorry i rammed my trolley into the back of your legs' at the supermarket type thing.
I mean things that actually matter.
(not that you can get away with ramming your trolley into someone without an apology, that's just rude..)
To humble yourself, put pride & ego aside.. yuck, no one wants to come across as being soft or a pushover but if it's going to be a genuine apology, then get with it.
I had to do this recently.
Le sigh*
I am an embarrassment to myself at times!
You know when you say something that is highly inconsiderate of the person you are saying it to & it's something that could cut them to the bone in an instant?
That was me.
*Ouch, baby, ouch.
I am not stoked about my actions in any way shape or form.
I'm sorry.
...being me (yes, I'm the first to admit I am a bit slow on the uptake, even at the best of times) it only took about 1hr for me to realise I was in fact in the wrong.
Ah crap.
And then you go into that instant meltdown feeling where you have to absolutely fix the problem/apologise before it escalates into something that it should never have been in the first place & you go into overdrive & you feel like the worst person in the history of human LIFE.. yeah. 
But once the penny had dropped- I apologised instantly.
Apology accepted.
And it felt good.
Le Fin.
xox

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

L O V E~

Before you start snickering... I'll say it first...
I am definitely not an expert on this subject, that is for damn sure!
Constantly doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing & failing everytime = me!
(hey... atleast I'm consistent!)
Now that I've got that out of the way, you can stop laughing at me.
Today's blog isn't about my life/experiences.
It's about friends getting engaged :) being adorable & loved up.
In the last week, i have heard of 4 couples getting engaged.
FOUR COUPLES!
That's 8 people, 4 sparkly engagement rings, 4 nervous guys, 4 proposals, 4 ecstatic, amazing, beautiful women... & the guys are pretty good too!
To say that there is so much love in the air right now...
is a massive understatement.
It seems there is love in the air & the water & the food in Melbourne right now.
Everyone is getting an injection of it in their lives right now in one way or another.
Whether it's friends getting engaged & you're over the moon happy for them or if it is in fact YOU!
It's beautiful! There's an overflow of it.
I am seriously losing track of who's single, who's dating, who's engaged, who just got married & who's expecting their first kid!
It's actually ridiculous. Ridiculously good, ofcourse.
So this is a celebration for them!
To all the beautiful, gorgeous, loved up couples out there...
CONGRATULATIONS!
Huge hugs & kisses galore to you from the bottom of my heart.
Love. Love. Love. And happiness. To infinity.
xox

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

SYDNEY Vs 2x MELBOURNIAN WOMEN

What can 2 young, single women get up to with 5 nights in Sydney?
A lot. You would think.
Here are some short stories:

*After arriving in Sydney & turning on my phone, i noticed a friend had suggested cocktails.
I was off to a good start & i hadn't even collected my bags yet!
We went to Shady Pines Saloon~ it was cool.
Recommended is the Buffalo Trace bourbon, straight & shot, it will not disappoint. I promise. 
Follow it up with some Mexican & you've
had a brilliant night!*

~Upon leaving the Saloon, your friend informs you of a big celebratory night they recently had here & how they woke up with a mysterious permanent marker in their pocket the following morning. Random. But then a couple days later, you are reflecting on this conversation & realise that on this particular celebratory night, your friend sent you this picture:
'Get back in line' ...i can't help but wonder if this in fact was my friends handy work~

*I had very inconspicuously hidden a spare set of keys for my Smash friend, who was yet to arrive, under a sign post in the middle of the road outside our apartment. It was genius. Who would look in the shrubs for keys? Here is the link to our place, its fantastic: http://www.stayz.com.au/17128 ~this is our actual apartment. Totally gorgeous & i want to show it off to you!*

*If you check out that link, you'll notice there are windows in the bathroom.. all I've got to say is, it's a little bit awkward when you shower with the windows wide open to let out the steam & while you are conditioning your hair, you look out across the way & you spot a family sitting down to dinner. You think 'hmm, if i can see them this easily... there's probably a 100% chance they can see me & I don't want to put them off their dinner.' Windows closed.*

*We hit up a 3 day convention while we were in town which was very pleasant. On day 1, we got told we were 'Striking' & that we 'Stood out from the crowd because we looked different to everyone else.' As for the style in general, it wasn't exactly out of this world but to be honest, i would have to say people do know how to put an outfit together & look suave. Whether its a red leather tie or a pair of baby blue pants teamed with navy jacket,
it was nicely put together.*

*Then there were drinks at the Novotel. Being surrounded by the beautiful people & not knowing many there, definitely makes one feel insanely shy! Yes. That would be me I'm referring to. (As in, the shy one.. not the beautiful one) So instead of being all up in someone's grill, i chilled in the background sipping frangelico & lime while observing.*

*The Food: Mexican, Italian, Japanese. Win.
There is an amazing Japanese restaurant down the road from our place. In true Japanese style when you walk in, you are greeted with 'Irashimase!' (Welcome) & if you have ever been to Japan, you would know that when you walk into a shop, you are always greeted with that.
We found a nice Italian place called Love Supreme. And boy did we love it!
Get the YABASTA or ORECCHIETTE.*
~Although we didn't get it, apparently the Leone is also good~

*We ventured out into the glorious sunshine cruising around the city & Hyde Park. To our surprise, we got tan lines! We also hit up a pier right near the Opera House & Sydney Harbour Bridge. We soaked up the sunshine & were interrupted by an American guy asking us to take photos of himself holding up signs with mushy messages of love on them for his girlfriend! It was adorable! I wanted in on the cuteness so i jumped in a photo with him & made a love heart with my hands :) He then went on to tell us his name was Steadman & he was in a band who are playing a gig at Hisense Arena in Melbourne this weekend & he would get us free tickets.*

*Hitting up one of our favourite little spots- Gusto's at Fiveways- for breakfast/ brunch catch ups with a mate from Melbourne was lovely. It had been a long time between lattes.*

*How could i forget! The Lowenbrau. German Pub. German Beer. 2x Melbournian~European descendant women. Yes. It was as tasty as i rememebered. http://www.lowenbrau.com.au/
Sitting there minding our own business, a group of guys walked in. I took this poor quality, sneaky photo.. who needs pants? Seriously.*
*I think thats about it for now.
Thanks Sydney.
xox