L O V E~

Before you start snickering... I'll say it first...

I am definitely not an expert on this subject, that is for damn sure!
Constantly doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing & failing everytime = me!

(hey... atleast I'm consistent!)

Now that I've got that out of the way, you can stop laughing at me.

Today's blog isn't about my life/experiences.

It's about friends getting engaged :) being adorable & loved up.

In the last week, i have heard of 4 couples getting engaged.

FOUR COUPLES!

That's 8 people, 4 sparkly engagement rings, 4 nervous guys, 4 proposals, 4 ecstatic, amazing, beautiful women... & the guys are pretty good too!

To say that there is so much love in the air right now...

is a massive understatement.

It seems there is love in the air & the water & the food in Melbourne right now.

Everyone is getting an injection of it in their lives right now in one way or another.

Whether it's friends getting engaged & you're over the moon happy for them or if it is in fact YOU!

It's beautiful! There's an overflow of it.

I am seriously losing track of who's single, who's dating, who's engaged, who just got married & who's expecting their first kid!

It's actually ridiculous. Ridiculously good, ofcourse.

So this is a celebration for them!

To all the beautiful, gorgeous, loved up couples out there...

CONGRATULATIONS!

Huge hugs & kisses galore to you from the bottom of my heart.

Love. Love. Love. And happiness. To infinity.

xox

Melbourne's 'IT' Girl!

Who is she?

That's the million dollar question.

.....and i have the answer!

Is she the most popular?

The most beautiful in appearance & personality?

The one who gets invited to every social event?
Is she confident within herself?

You?

Me?

About a week ago, i was out for dinner at this fabulous,

intimate Italian restaurant.

One of my mates was telling me that he had been chatting to a mutual friend recently & they both came to the same conclusion that one particular girl was Melbourne's 'IT' Girl.

He told me who it was.

But i will leave it all a mystery for you, my darling blog readers!

I can't really say that i agreed 100% with who these

2 guys said she was.

I actually thought it was quite hilarious!

Basically, the criteria they were working off was that she seems to know 'everyone,' gets invited to all events, everyone in general likes her & no one ever has a bad word to say about her.

She is genuine.

Will always have your back & you can always rely on her.

A label like Melbourne's 'IT' Girl will not happen over night.

This cool cat has taken her time to build up actual proper friendships that have & will last for years to come.

She's always got time for you.

She has a good reputation & a world of respect from her friends.

Are you intrigued as to who Im talking about?

You should be.

You all know her.

xox
ps- I should probably add, the 'IT' girl Im talking about, doesn't believe that it's her.
I'll never tell :)
It's not who you think.

'WOMANISER' / 'PLAYER'

Are you?

It's definitely not the most desired thing to be called.

So why the label/s?

Do people use these labels to degrade others in the hope that they will feel good about themselves?

To make them look like a better person?

Is there a higher authority that people reserve the right to use only at someone elses downfall/expense?

Who gives a rats.

In the grand scheme of things, who am I to judge the next person?

Seriously.

By judging others too soon, it makes us look shallow.
Answer me this truthfully- Do you REALLY feel better after dissing someone? You might be smirking on the outside, but deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, is your moral compass telling you it's not cool to do that..

Let's break it down & see what we come up with.

What makes a guy a womaniser/player anyway?

Perhaps it's just a perception that isn't based on fact.

He gets along well with the ladies? He's charming? He's charismatic? He knows what he wants & goes for it?

Wow. He sounds terrible. I'll take one!

(i must say.. it is a lethal mix if you have the right balance of each of those! see previous post discussing these: http://copesesque.blogspot.com/2011/05/confidence-charisma-charm-lethal-mix.html )

So what if he prefers hanging out with the ladies- we are nice to look at, we always smell amazing & hey- shock horror- we're kind of interesting too.

You feel comfortable hanging out with girls?

That's cool.

I feel comfortable hanging out with guys.

Exhibit A: a couple of weeks ago i was at a pub for a farewell. For about 2-3hours, i was drinking beer & playing snooker with the boys. No other girl played. Me & a range of different guys.

Hold up- am i a player because of this?

Surely not.

It does swing both ways.. although girls are more commonly known as maneaters or flirts.
Or worse.. but you don't need me to spell it out for you.

Either/ either.

Bottom line is, if a girl is dumb enough to believe everything she hears without working it out for herself, she's obviously not worth your time or energy.

What ever happened to 'Don't judge a book by it's cover?'

Personally, i take it all with a grain of salt.

If somebody exclaims 'He's a player.' In my books, that makes them look worse than the so called 'player.' Why the diss?

(Pretty sure i discussed this at the outset..)

A friend recently told me that he had been called a 'womaniser.'

What- is this now a black mark against his name? Beware girls!

I think not.

What is interesting is that I had been told this same person was a 'player.'

As much as i was never going to tell him about this, i fessed up.

It wasn't easy. But as he'd brought up the subject, i knew

it would be ok.

Those labels? Empty.

I never believed for a moment that he was.
At the same time, isn't everyone a little bit like this?

More often than not, after you actually get to know someone, they are nothing like the lies you heard at first & you'll discover something amazing- that they are actually a really

lovely person.

Those who believe everything they hear instead of working it out for themselves.. take a little time & work it out in your own head. Don't blab your empty lies to us.

Did i do the right thing by telling my friend?

xox

ps- This post wouldn't be complete without this, hahaa, enjoy:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWJhpFdiAXc