Are you?
It's definitely not the most desired thing to be called.
So why the label/s?
Do people use these labels to degrade others in the hope that they will feel good about themselves?
To make them look like a better person?
Is there a higher authority that people reserve the right to use only at someone elses downfall/expense?
Who gives a rats.
In the grand scheme of things, who am I to judge the next person?
Seriously.
By judging others too soon, it makes us look shallow.
Answer me this truthfully- Do you REALLY feel better after dissing someone? You might be smirking on the outside, but deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, is your moral compass telling you it's not cool to do that..
Answer me this truthfully- Do you REALLY feel better after dissing someone? You might be smirking on the outside, but deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, is your moral compass telling you it's not cool to do that..
Let's break it down & see what we come up with.
What makes a guy a womaniser/player anyway?
Perhaps it's just a perception that isn't based on fact.
He gets along well with the ladies? He's charming? He's charismatic? He knows what he wants & goes for it?
Wow. He sounds terrible. I'll take one!
(i must say.. it is a lethal mix if you have the right balance of each of those! see previous post discussing these: http://copesesque.blogspot.com/2011/05/confidence-charisma-charm-lethal-mix.html )
So what if he prefers hanging out with the ladies- we are nice to look at, we always smell amazing & hey- shock horror- we're kind of interesting too.
You feel comfortable hanging out with girls?
That's cool.
I feel comfortable hanging out with guys.
Exhibit A: a couple of weeks ago i was at a pub for a farewell. For about 2-3hours, i was drinking beer & playing snooker with the boys. No other girl played. Me & a range of different guys.
Hold up- am i a player because of this?
Surely not.
It does swing both ways.. although girls are more commonly known as maneaters or flirts.
Or worse.. but you don't need me to spell it out for you.
Or worse.. but you don't need me to spell it out for you.
Either/ either.
Bottom line is, if a girl is dumb enough to believe everything she hears without working it out for herself, she's obviously not worth your time or energy.
What ever happened to 'Don't judge a book by it's cover?'
Personally, i take it all with a grain of salt.
If somebody exclaims 'He's a player.' In my books, that makes them look worse than the so called 'player.' Why the diss?
(Pretty sure i discussed this at the outset..)
A friend recently told me that he had been called a 'womaniser.'
What- is this now a black mark against his name? Beware girls!
I think not.
What is interesting is that I had been told this same person was a 'player.'
As much as i was never going to tell him about this, i fessed up.
It wasn't easy. But as he'd brought up the subject, i knew
it would be ok.
Those labels? Empty.
I never believed for a moment that he was.
At the same time, isn't everyone a little bit like this?
At the same time, isn't everyone a little bit like this?
More often than not, after you actually get to know someone, they are nothing like the lies you heard at first & you'll discover something amazing- that they are actually a really
lovely person.
Those who believe everything they hear instead of working it out for themselves.. take a little time & work it out in your own head. Don't blab your empty lies to us.
Did i do the right thing by telling my friend?
xox
ps- This post wouldn't be complete without this, hahaa, enjoy:
