FACEBOOK - ERADICATION

I did it.
I actually did it.
After procrastinating for approximately 1 year & having the thought bubbling away in the back of my brain..
I got myself an injection of Dutch courage & did it.
Not a literal injection you crazies! It's a metaphor. Dutch courage comes from within oneself.
(All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage & something good will come of it. I promise. That goes for a lot of things actually... put yourself out there, take the chance & see where it leads you. Often you'll get pleasantly surprised & wonder why you never took the chance earlier.)
What the hell am i talking about?
Well.. if the heading didn't already give it away... *drum roll please
A little over a month ago, i deleted my Facebook account!
I've been dry for almost.. 6 weeks i think.
But who's counting?
The reasons i deleted it, you really want to know?
Let's get one thing clear straight up- it was nothing personal against anyone on there.
I definitely still love you.
This decision was purely because i wanted to remove myself from the equation & just have a bit of a break from the constant stream of information, sometimes useless information, which i was definitely guilty of time & time again!
I'm the first to admit this.
And also i much prefer receiving a text or a nice phone call instead of someone posting a comment on my wall or poking me. (Whether i wanted to be poked or not.. )
Then theres that whole scenario where you meet someone new for the first time & they exclaim 'OH! Nice to finally meet you, I see you on Facebook all the time!' (and what they don't tell you is '..and i have already prejudged you on what i have seen on Facebook.' Preconception. It's ok, don't give me a chance to give you a proper first impression in person. That's totally fine. You've clearly already made up your mind about me anyway.)
To the people who sent me a text asking 'OMG!! Did you delete your FB? Is everything ok?!'
Yes. I am totally fine, nothing bad happened. Thankyou.

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My new addiction now that Facebook is out of my life?
I thought you'd never ask:
http://www.lookbook.nu/
*Gawk!
You didn't honestly think that after deleting Facebook i would be sitting here all day long just twirling my long blonde hair & sipping lattes now did you? As fun as that is!
Silly! You know me better than that.
Not even sure how i stumbled across Lookbook, but what i do know is that it was love at first sight.
Some of the outfits on there are out of this world! Gorgeous.
I'm only brand new to it & it's highly intimidating. Yes.
Did i just say that? I am intimidated.
Little old me who doesn't get intimidated by anyone or anything.
Or if i did, you would never actually know it because I'm too stubborn to let my guard down far enough for that to be revealed to you. A girls got to have some secrets!
Let me get something clear, it's not so much intimidated by peoples looks as such, although there are many beauties on there, it's more intimidation of their amazing style & creativity in putting outfits together.
Perhaps it's jealousy & intimidation mixed with awe & respect..
Check it out for yourselves.
Inspire me!

Having said all of that.... I'll probably be back on Facebook by the end of the month!

xox

Melbourne's 'IT' Girl!

Who is she?

That's the million dollar question.

.....and i have the answer!

Is she the most popular?

The most beautiful in appearance & personality?

The one who gets invited to every social event?
Is she confident within herself?

You?

Me?

About a week ago, i was out for dinner at this fabulous,

intimate Italian restaurant.

One of my mates was telling me that he had been chatting to a mutual friend recently & they both came to the same conclusion that one particular girl was Melbourne's 'IT' Girl.

He told me who it was.

But i will leave it all a mystery for you, my darling blog readers!

I can't really say that i agreed 100% with who these

2 guys said she was.

I actually thought it was quite hilarious!

Basically, the criteria they were working off was that she seems to know 'everyone,' gets invited to all events, everyone in general likes her & no one ever has a bad word to say about her.

She is genuine.

Will always have your back & you can always rely on her.

A label like Melbourne's 'IT' Girl will not happen over night.

This cool cat has taken her time to build up actual proper friendships that have & will last for years to come.

She's always got time for you.

She has a good reputation & a world of respect from her friends.

Are you intrigued as to who Im talking about?

You should be.

You all know her.

xox
ps- I should probably add, the 'IT' girl Im talking about, doesn't believe that it's her.
I'll never tell :)
It's not who you think.

'WOMANISER' / 'PLAYER'

Are you?

It's definitely not the most desired thing to be called.

So why the label/s?

Do people use these labels to degrade others in the hope that they will feel good about themselves?

To make them look like a better person?

Is there a higher authority that people reserve the right to use only at someone elses downfall/expense?

Who gives a rats.

In the grand scheme of things, who am I to judge the next person?

Seriously.

By judging others too soon, it makes us look shallow.
Answer me this truthfully- Do you REALLY feel better after dissing someone? You might be smirking on the outside, but deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, is your moral compass telling you it's not cool to do that..

Let's break it down & see what we come up with.

What makes a guy a womaniser/player anyway?

Perhaps it's just a perception that isn't based on fact.

He gets along well with the ladies? He's charming? He's charismatic? He knows what he wants & goes for it?

Wow. He sounds terrible. I'll take one!

(i must say.. it is a lethal mix if you have the right balance of each of those! see previous post discussing these: http://copesesque.blogspot.com/2011/05/confidence-charisma-charm-lethal-mix.html )

So what if he prefers hanging out with the ladies- we are nice to look at, we always smell amazing & hey- shock horror- we're kind of interesting too.

You feel comfortable hanging out with girls?

That's cool.

I feel comfortable hanging out with guys.

Exhibit A: a couple of weeks ago i was at a pub for a farewell. For about 2-3hours, i was drinking beer & playing snooker with the boys. No other girl played. Me & a range of different guys.

Hold up- am i a player because of this?

Surely not.

It does swing both ways.. although girls are more commonly known as maneaters or flirts.
Or worse.. but you don't need me to spell it out for you.

Either/ either.

Bottom line is, if a girl is dumb enough to believe everything she hears without working it out for herself, she's obviously not worth your time or energy.

What ever happened to 'Don't judge a book by it's cover?'

Personally, i take it all with a grain of salt.

If somebody exclaims 'He's a player.' In my books, that makes them look worse than the so called 'player.' Why the diss?

(Pretty sure i discussed this at the outset..)

A friend recently told me that he had been called a 'womaniser.'

What- is this now a black mark against his name? Beware girls!

I think not.

What is interesting is that I had been told this same person was a 'player.'

As much as i was never going to tell him about this, i fessed up.

It wasn't easy. But as he'd brought up the subject, i knew

it would be ok.

Those labels? Empty.

I never believed for a moment that he was.
At the same time, isn't everyone a little bit like this?

More often than not, after you actually get to know someone, they are nothing like the lies you heard at first & you'll discover something amazing- that they are actually a really

lovely person.

Those who believe everything they hear instead of working it out for themselves.. take a little time & work it out in your own head. Don't blab your empty lies to us.

Did i do the right thing by telling my friend?

xox

ps- This post wouldn't be complete without this, hahaa, enjoy:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWJhpFdiAXc

CONFIDENCE, CHARISMA, CHARM= LETHAL MIX.

You know how there are those extremely irritating people who just seem to OOOOZE the above mentioned?

Yeah. I know a few of them as well.

You'll be at a party or out for drinks with a whole crew & then 'they' decide to show up in all their glory. 

All they have to do is walk in & instantly they command the attention of the entire room.
All this before they've even taken off their coat.

It's not necessarily what they wear or anything visual.

It seems to be an aura that follows them around.

They have an 'air' about themselves, it's self
confidence, but not cockiness. 
There is a difference between someone confident
& someone cocky.
(FYI it is easy to distinguish between the two)
You can't help but be intriguied by them.
They're always smiling, always friendly, always chatting & laughing, know everyone & everyone is always happy to see them.
And on top of all of that not 1 bad word can be spoken of them.
You can't buy confidence, charisma or charm, so where
does it come from?
Can it be learned? I think to an extent it can be.
Putting into practice is a completely different story.
It's something that needs to come from within.
Or as these guys say...

So you should probably just 'Fake it 'til you make it.'
Or instead of getting with the negatives in life & worrying obsessively about what other people may think about you, be happy with your self.
Don't be intimidated by it.
Know yourself.
If you are happy with you, then you will be one of those enviable people who oooze confidence, charisma & charm.
And you didnt even have to break a sweat!
xox